If your boyfriend or husband plays video games between whiles, you should be okay with that. It can be their way to distress and relax after a long day. But if they are obsessed with their console and it is clearly obvious that playing became a priority for them, that’s when it starts to become a problem and measures need to be taken.
Many women feel threatened by their partner’s obsession and addiction to video games. When asked about the reason, many said that they feel ignored and abandoned. They feel that it started to affect their relationship together as a couple.
These women can be fine with their partners’ occasional playing as long as they devote some of their free time to spend it with them. Alternatively, many women don’t care about their partners’ excessive video game playing habits. As they themselves enjoy gaming, they can consider the time they spend playing with their husbands or boyfriends as quality time.
Many argue that women should not complain much about their partners’ hobbies. Instead, allow them to have some alone time which can contribute to a healthy relationship. This is due to the fact that gaming is considered as a way to blow off some steam and have fun. It is also way more preferable than having a boyfriend who is addicted to drugs, alcohol, or gambling. Many suggest that knowing your boyfriend is home with you is more assuring than him being out somewhere else hanging in bars with people you may not even know.
Being in a relationship means choosing to take part in the other party’s life and voluntarily choosing to devote some time to spend together. So if your partner is given the option of how he wants to spend his free time, what does he do? Does he choose his beloved console? Or does he choose you?
If you feel that you’re being left behind, and you feel lonely and not being paid any attention, you have to step in and try to overcome this situation.
- Try talking to him about your concerns and the fact that you miss spending time with him.
- Don’t mention how you think gaming is an addiction instead tell him that he’s spending too much time playing video games and that because of this habit you feel ignored and forgotten.
- Show him that it started to affect your relationship together and that you need to address this situation as a couple before it gets more serious.
- Ask him if he can get to set some gaming time limits and stick to them
Having this kind of talk with your husband or boyfriend can surely increase the level of stress in your relationship temporarily. He might get defensive and things could end up escalating to an argument. But the purpose of having these relationship discussions is to deal with them before they become out of control.
Unfortunately, gaming is a difficult beast and different from other hobbies. It really is expensive, time-consuming, and essentially exclusionary. But that needn’t be alienating.
Therefore, keeping in your partners’ minds that they are adults, with duties and responsibilities, is essential if they want to stay in a relationship.
If your partner is not ready to make some efforts to engage more with you, then don’t settle for being less important than his video games.
References: http://www.techaddiction.ca/boyfriend-husband-addicted-to-video-games.html
https://gamerant.com/gaming-relationships-6-ways/
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