Toxic people defy logic. Most are utterly oblivious of the negative effect provocation has on those around them; and others appear to draw pleasure by causing chaos and pressing other people’s buttons. Either way, they generate needless uncertainty, tension, and, worse yet, stress.
Delay your reaction for sometimes
Reacting when being provoked is the innate instinct of a human being. Although in those cases, people usually lose their reasoning abilities. They don’t consider the consequence of their responses. Quite much this kind of mentality in life leads to disputes, conflict, hardship, retribution, and vengeance.
Therefore, delaying your reaction, with the help of willpower, when it is triggered; is known to be a positive attitude in coping with aggression in any situation. It helps one to restore calm composure and react properly. Try to count to three and take a deep breath in the process before you react.
Don’t let the provocation dictates terms on you
Whenever you feel nervous because of any insignificant comments, try not to respond automatically. Don’t let the provocation dictate terms for you. You can not make the correct decision when being emotionally distressed by a provocation. It is also worth using the strength of your patience to postpone your response until you feel secure choosing the best possible option to answer.
Generally, people often do it to provoke someone else to pursue some sort of knowledge or to conceal their own inferiority complex. Therefore, if someone provokes you, don’t let that person take advantage of you by causing you to feel helpless.
Handle the situation wisely
Under these cases, when you’re being triggered by someone, rather than the provocation; it’s your own response to it that’s going to cause problems in your life. The reactions are impulsive; responses are well thought out. Impelling responses not only make someone feel bad about them but can destroy their relationships.
Therefore, do not ruin your relationships with impulsive responses and make the matter much more complicated for you. Whenever you are triggered, pause your response, remain calm, calm yourself, measure the pros and cons of any potential solution; and pick the right way to answer so that you do not feel guilty for your acts while having your peace of mind simultaneously.
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